tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178753992132096505.post4202109708378299096..comments2024-02-18T10:58:33.157-05:00Comments on so long and thanks for all the fish: Monday Musings: In which Elizabeth discovers she has some not very feminist ideas about loveElizabethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17058009271288566400noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178753992132096505.post-86064558817970205992015-05-01T13:48:20.598-04:002015-05-01T13:48:20.598-04:00I'm definitely more of a K-Drama girl, I'v...I'm definitely more of a K-Drama girl, I've only seen two or three J-Dramas. And...Last Cinderella was fun, but ultimately nothing new. It had a lot of potential and it just didn't do anything with that said potential. I mean it's good, I liked it, but I'm also a little disappointed because they didn't explore a lot of things they could have. So take that as you will :)Elizabethhttp://oboechica-books.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178753992132096505.post-1295553312928586362015-05-01T13:22:14.320-04:002015-05-01T13:22:14.320-04:00Lol! It helps a lot when the guy is not a big old...Lol! It helps a lot when the guy is not a big old jackass (which is usually my first problem, and it's a separate thing really). Ahhh John Hughes....Sixteen Candles is probably one of my all time favourites. (Although I may never forgive him for Pretty in Pink. Andrew McCarthy IS a total babe...but man he was a wimpy jerk in that film >:-l)Elizabethhttp://oboechica-books.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178753992132096505.post-45359340993528307712015-04-29T02:32:37.005-04:002015-04-29T02:32:37.005-04:00I was in the mood for a lighthearted drama and I l...I was in the mood for a lighthearted drama and I like it but it's early days yet so I'll let you know if it's worth a full recommendation in the end ^^ I really need to get back into J-dramas - maybe I'll try Last Cinderella.glaiza_echohttps://paperwanderer.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178753992132096505.post-76729986659556299142015-04-27T22:52:39.254-04:002015-04-27T22:52:39.254-04:00How interesting! I think my preferences are a big...How interesting! I think my preferences are a big tangled mess. I think my favorite scenario is girl pining for uber cool guy and finally attracting his attention. I'm not sure where that falls except in wish fulfillment:). I blame all the movies that were popular when I was a teen - it's all John Hughes fault. Though actually John Hughes didn't use that trope very often.... Stephaniehttp://nodorkfear.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178753992132096505.post-51652898564943689592015-04-27T09:38:20.992-04:002015-04-27T09:38:20.992-04:00You know, it's probably because I read mostly ...You know, it's probably because I read mostly YA, but I very rarely read from a male POV. Most of the books that do have a male POV are shared with female POV as well. (Unless you aren't talking 1st person because I just realized you didn't specify that) I think? you read a lot of sci-fi? If I'm right about that, it totally makes sense then, because almost all the sci-fi I'Elizabethhttp://oboechica-books.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178753992132096505.post-76498132223054211362015-04-27T09:35:45.573-04:002015-04-27T09:35:45.573-04:00Yeak K-dramas are kind of a special case for me. P...Yeak K-dramas are kind of a special case for me. Part of me wants to appreciate the female interest's preference...but most of me is like man there is a CLEAR better choice here haha!Elizabethhttp://oboechica-books.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178753992132096505.post-36653928013212751752015-04-26T12:10:26.889-04:002015-04-26T12:10:26.889-04:00I totally didn't realise, until I read your po...I totally didn't realise, until I read your post, but I DO THIS TOO! It's like I prefer reading novels from a male POV. I have no real reason to, I just do (unless it's chick-lit, then of course it's female POV all the way). Maybe I'm just not reading the right female lead books in other genres *ponders* might need to do some research on that.<br /><br />Gosh your post has Wattlehttp://whimsical-nature.net/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178753992132096505.post-75857719398772002552015-04-25T17:54:00.328-04:002015-04-25T17:54:00.328-04:00It always takes me by surprise when I discover som...It always takes me by surprise when I discover something about myself that doesn't feel like something I would have done on my own - if that makes sense. I also have an issue where I'm so damned nice to people even when I WANT to get angry...99% of the time I don't. And I think that's a bit of who I am on my own, but a lot of it is definitely a cultural thing. I didn't evenElizabethhttp://oboechica-books.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178753992132096505.post-34448457617814081392015-04-24T13:36:53.184-04:002015-04-24T13:36:53.184-04:00Which is actually a pretty reasonable reason to pr...Which is actually a pretty reasonable reason to prefer the secondary interest, in that case!Lark @ The Bookwyrm's Hoardhttp://bookwyrmshoard.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178753992132096505.post-13190601037700413412015-04-24T13:36:17.884-04:002015-04-24T13:36:17.884-04:00Interesting post - and good for you for both notic...Interesting post - and good for you for both noticing this and addressing it! That's the first step to changing your thinking. The next is to keep noticing when you're applying the old way of thinking (this one, or any other you want to change) and contradicting or correcting it each time you catch yourself thinking it (without being negative toward yourself. Just change the thought, don&Lark @ The Bookwyrm's Hoardhttp://bookwyrmshoard.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178753992132096505.post-81119393885331352562015-04-23T21:26:25.425-04:002015-04-23T21:26:25.425-04:00I hadn't thought of that - it's very likel...I hadn't thought of that - it's very likely that since culturally whether in books or movies I predominately see men chasing women that I prefer it so much more because it's what I'm used to and therefore comfortable with. And I know Fortune's Pawn is on my TBR - I'll have to bump it up the list! <br /><br />It looks like Season 1 and 2 are like...completely separate. Elizabethhttp://oboechica-books.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178753992132096505.post-61487277886756085502015-04-23T21:21:58.216-04:002015-04-23T21:21:58.216-04:00I think that's exactly where I want to be - ok...I think that's exactly where I want to be - ok with either. I'm likely always going to prefer the boy chasing, because it is what gives me ALL the swoons. But I'd like to be comfortable/able to enjoy girl chasing instead of immediately being irritated by the girl. And maybe my personal relationships have an effect on this too - I didn't want relationships for the most part and Elizabethhttp://oboechica-books.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178753992132096505.post-2587434112583871102015-04-23T21:18:58.297-04:002015-04-23T21:18:58.297-04:00Thank you! *blushes* It's definitely become s...Thank you! *blushes* It's definitely become something I'm noticing/thinking about more when I'm reading since I started writing this post, so it'll be interesting to see what changes happen along the way. (And if it will change how I ship in K-Dramas. Maybe for once I will actually ship the guy she ends up with!)Elizabethhttp://oboechica-books.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178753992132096505.post-59358825593700119652015-04-23T21:16:32.822-04:002015-04-23T21:16:32.822-04:00I think I'd be less bothered by all of this (m...I think I'd be less bothered by all of this (mostly the my opinion being more important than the girl's) if I didn't way what the boy wants/needs so much more heavily than the girl's. It's also funny because I so frequently ship the secondary love interest instead of the primary one in K-Dramas (Princess Hours, You're Beautiful) because he's the one who's been Elizabethhttp://oboechica-books.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178753992132096505.post-44367161891858418332015-04-23T12:47:12.479-04:002015-04-23T12:47:12.479-04:00Hmm... why do you have to change your preference i...Hmm... why do you have to change your preference if it is genuinely yours? I think the frowning upon women chasing men, from another female's perspective, would be the reaction of most independent women. Is it because if she has to chase him it is percieved as showing she doesn't have enough self worth? I think that is how I veiw it because I don't care for the girl chasing guy La La in the Libraryhttp://lalatoadstone.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178753992132096505.post-23729139325655408532015-04-23T07:00:30.261-04:002015-04-23T07:00:30.261-04:00I'm going to have to think about this too! I e...I'm going to have to think about this too! I enjoy seeing the guy gradually win over a girl in a story but I don't if that preference comes from a lack of exposure to stories with the reverse trope either. I enjoyed Fortune's Pawn by Rachel Bach which features a kickass urban fantasy-like heroine in a kind of spaceship setting. She chases the guy + her career path and that was good glaiza_echohttps://paperwanderer.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178753992132096505.post-84540152897170581222015-04-20T15:46:15.839-04:002015-04-20T15:46:15.839-04:00This is so interesting! I haven't really thou...This is so interesting! I haven't really thought about my preferences. I don't think it bothers me one way or the other now that I think about it. I'm not sure I even register it? And to be honest, I've been the pursuer in all my relationships. I think I prefer it that way because it puts me in control and I direct the courtship actively rather than letting it happen Shannonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178753992132096505.post-60741142153690743772015-04-20T11:35:03.264-04:002015-04-20T11:35:03.264-04:00Oh, I do so love your posts! And honestly, you cha...Oh, I do so love your posts! And honestly, you change your opinion by actively questioning your judgement ... just like you're doing here! In other news, I can relate to this too. Unlearning is hard; we just work on it. I mean, even Buffy needs to train on the regular! ^_^Yashnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7178753992132096505.post-14009223002133703772015-04-20T10:19:20.687-04:002015-04-20T10:19:20.687-04:00This is me too! I care so much about the boy’s nee...This is me too! I care so much about the boy’s needs more than the girl’s. I absolutely care who is the right boy for the girl. I weigh the guy’s actions to make the girl fall in love with him which always happens with in the second male love interest. Because how diligent he was it made me root for him. I don’t like girls chasing boys. I want the opposite. But you’re right; you made me realize Mitchii G.http://bookish.skycircus.org/noreply@blogger.com